I do not have anything against nice men.
Wait. Before we go there, let us be on the same grounds as to what constitutes a nice man. For this please refer to my earlier blog : the pros and cons of being with him : http://iitandtheworld.wordpress.com/2012/09/12/the-pros-and-cons-of-being-with-him-2/
To name a few :
1. Great listener. Will never ask me to shut up or get lost or not listen and i might get tired of yapping, but he will listen, he will call, he will recharge, he will laugh, he will comment, he will be on the other end of the line always.
2. He has a car, will take me shopping, might even pay, will take me out, will let me drink, will drink with me and still behave.
3. He will not look at other girls, will talk to me, tell me everything, make me feel like a queen, i will be the center of his world, all his niceness and morals and good outlook will leave an impression on me and make me change my outlook.
4.Will take me out for walks and look forward to them.
And the list goes on. But the point is nice guys are those who will never break your heart, will always hold you close and etc etc, the Stephan from Vampire Diaries. And well chances are, and if you have been with one you already know that dinners and drinks with a nice guy and nice music, are well boring. Going on walks with nice guys is ahem again boring. Sitting and talking with a nice guy, who will always be supportive and listen to pour your heart out and agree with your opinions on everything, well even that gets monotonous after sometime. I mean , can you always be right?
Of course it does depend on the type of a girl/woman you are. It all comes down to that.
But being born in the 21st century with so much of freedom of thought and choice, do you really want to settle down with someone who agrees with you, or with someone who challenges you?
Do you want to be with somebody who will treat you like a queen irrespective of how you behave or do you want to spend your life with someone who will help you become a queen?
Do you want to lie down in bed with someone who will shy away from making the first thinking of your feelings , whether you want to or not tonight, or do you want to be with someone who will assert his right over you ?
Do you want to be protected or do you want to be with a man who knows you can take care of yourself?
Do you want to be with a nice guy who will change paths when he sees a bunch of rogues on the road just to avoid trouble or do you want to be with a man who will hold your hand and walk tall through them???
Would you settle down for security sans the adventure?